Strategies/Tips for working with men
Tips for working with men
Compiled by Jon Davies, Ph.D.
McKenzie River Men’s Center
- Become more familiar with men’s issues. Explore your own issues and feelings about working with men.
- Provide a safe, supportive, non-judgmental atmosphere.
- Assume that men may have exhausted all other coping resources before coming in to talk with you.
- Don’t assume that all men share the same conceptualization of masculinity that you hold.
- Assume that men may only be coming to see you once or several times.
- Reassure men that they have made the correct decision in coming in to see you.
- Assume that men may be survivors of sexual or physical abuse, or domestic violence.
- Assume that men may not be heterosexual.
- Assume that men of color and gay/bisexual/transgendered men may have concerns about your ability to understand and accept their diversity.
- Reward healthy coping strategies. Explore any physical health concerns they may have and what they are doing about them.
- Pay attention to client depression, suicidality, violence risk, alcohol/drug abuse and other unhealthy coping strategies.
- Be aware of men’s discomfort with asking for help.
- Create opportunities for men to reciprocate (give back) to the therapist or therapy group.
- Share power with male clients, Respect their autonomy. Involve them in decision making.
- Encourage men to identify and engage in positive sel -help coping strategies.
- Tell men when it would be important to return for counseling.
- Be a positive role model for men by modeling vulnerability, self-care, interdependency, and emotional expression.